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How to Heal After Betrayal and Rebuild Trust

Hey! How are you? You know, this mundane world could be frustrating. There`s nothing worse than getting betrayed, asides getting betrayed and dying. Betrayal from people who we deeply trust, be it a partner, a loved one, or a friend, can be one of the most painful experiences to endure. It causes dilemma, leaving you questioning love, trust, or even your own judgement. With all these, you might feel unending anger, or resentment, but there`s a good news. There`s hope, healing is possible with time. Self compassion and intentional actions could be your foundation to rebuild trust, both in others and in yourself. 

Let`s dive in!

In the contemporary world, betrayal has become a norm. Betrayal is an extreme emotional wound that carries an immense impact. It often affects your self esteem, and causes you to question your decision making. Rebuilding trust after betrayal may sound futile. Betrayal creates a vacuum, that is constantly fed by negative emotions, like anger, sadness, disbelief, and resentment. But there`s hope. Light can still be found at the end of the tunnel. It can be challenging but being intentional is key. The first step is by allowing yourself to grieve. Instead of suppressing those emotions, give yourself permission to grieve. Betrayal is also considered a loss~ Its the loss of trust. Allow yourself to accept fate, give you permission to grieve. When you finally done grieving, prioritize yourself. Make you happy, choose you over anything. 

Then seek clarity. I`m most definitely sure you want answers, everyone does. Try your best not to seem obsessed while looking for answers. You could even find answers on your own by inner reflection. If you choose to rebuild the relationship, honest communication is crucial. The betrayer must validate your feelings, the reason why you`re hurt, all must be justified. Set boundaries and take baby steps in building what was lost. The next most important thing is, letting go of resentment. 

Forgiveness doesn`t mean excusing the behaviour, it means freeing yourself from its hold. The last thing you need to do is rebuild trust in yourself. Betrayal often causes self doubt. Trust your intuition, don`t go hard on yourself, and take small steps. In time you would have what you lost.

Wrapping Up

Healing after betrayal is a journey, one that requires patience, self-compassion, and time. Ask yourself "Is this person truly remorseful?", "Are they willing to work the damage?", "Can you see a healthy future together?". If the is no, walking away might be the most healthy choice for you. Whether you choose to repair the relationship or move forward alone, the process will make you stronger and more resilient.

"Trust can be broken, but it can also be rebuilt—starting with the trust you have in yourself."