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Overcoming Jealousy: Building Security in Your Relationship

Hey! How are you? Our study today, entails overcoming jealousy. This conceptuality should enlighten we both on how to build security in a relationship. A quick trivia about me; I'm an extremely jealous person, and i hate that. But with this study, you the reader, and i the writer would each get our resolve. Just to justify your feelings, and uncertainties, jealousy is that uneasy feeling you get when you’re scared of losing something or someone you care about to someone else. It’s like a mix of fear, insecurity, and comparison all wrapped up in one. You might worry you’re not enough, or that someone else is better, smarter, or more attractive. It often shows up in relationships, whether with a partner, a friend, or even at work and can make you overthink, second-guess, or act out in ways you usually wouldn’t. 

Let`s dive in!!

Therefore, to give us a broad but concise understanding of jealousy. Jealousy is feeling formed by fear of inadequacy, a fear of abandonment, or a fear of loosing someone you care about. Jealousy often depicts doubt about your worth. You  might seem jealous because of previous betrayals or toxic relationships that leave scars with you. But in all things the root of jealousy is "YOU". There`s no other practical reason that`s making you subconsciously jealous. But it`s great, I've got remarkable news for you. Things can change! there`s no need to doubt your worth, there`s no need to feel inadequate, your partner might never feel this way, so why the burden on yourself?

For this reason, i decided to created a list for the both of us to Master and Overcome jealousy;

  1. Acknowledge and accept your feelings: Be honest to yourself about your feelings, understand that does feelings acts as a sign. Do not consider them as an imperfection or a flaw. Denying jealousy doesn`t make it go away, it makes it harder to handle
  2.  Communicate openly: Ensure to discuss with your partner about your feelings, without blaming them.  Use “I” statements like, “I feel insecure when…” rather than accusing phrases like, “You make me jealous.” This invites understanding instead of defensiveness.
  3. Build self esteem: Remember i told you, "you are the cause of your problem". Well yes, but now you are also part of the solution, the most important figure if i must say. Spend time enhancing your self worth and your personal growth. Everything will follow suit.
  4. Set healthy boundaries: Between just your partner and you, discuss and agree what`s acceptable in your relationship to ensure mutual respect. Boundaries causes genuine bond and trust to thrive.
  5. Challenge negative thoughts: When jealousy creeps in, the answer is in it validity. Ask yourself "is there any evidence to support this feeling?". Jealousy is often fuelled by assumptions rather than any sincere fact.
  6. Seek professional help: In certain cases where you cannot handle it alone, you could go to a therapist or rather surround yourself with people that you love. Shift your mindset from comparison to appreciation, and unpack the benefits of a solid relationship. 

Wrapping Up

Jealousy doesn`t have to be a villain story, it can be a teacher. By encouraging independence, spending quality time together, validating each other, you can build trust and foster security in your relationship. Remember, the strongest relationships aren’t free from challenges—they grow because of how those challenges are faced.